At my old job, there was a guy who would come in almost every day. Said guy was never rude to anyone there in one sense. But he was at least 20 years my senior. And every time he came in he’d start with, “How’s the prettiest girl in the world today?” And I’d force a smile because that’s what I was supposed to do, and he’d say, “I love seeing you smile.”
I could handle it from there. But one day he came in, and after the initial contact he also said, “I know you want me to go away, but you can’t make me. So show me that smile again.”
I’d like to point out, I get awful anxiety around men due to past events in my life. The minute a man starts coming on to me I almost go fight or flight. This man knew that. He could tell. And he STILL would hit on me because he KNEW there was nothing I could do about it. That is not okay. That’s scary. For me it was terrifying because this guy could virtually say what he wanted and the only thing I could do was either smile politely or not look at him because I wasn’t brave enough to tell him to stop. I was scared to walk home that day.
Guys, for any of you who do this: IT IS NOT OKAY TO HIT ON A GIRL BECAUSE SHE’S AT WORK AND CAN’T STOP YOU. You don’t know how she feels about it. For me this was almost a personal hell. I’d get anxiety attacks over this, and my management simply told me “ignore it and it’ll go away.” Sometimes we don’t get help dealing with it. And it should be a simple rule of thumb that if anyone is uncomfortable with how you’re speaking to them, STOP. It’s not funny or charming or cute.
me, applying a hydrating serum to my skin: have a fucking sip babe
How strange it is. We have these deep terrible lingering fears about ourselves and the people we love. Yet we walk around, talk to people, eat and drink. We manage to function. The feelings are deep and real. Shouldn’t they paralyze us? How is it we can survive them, at least for a little while? We drive a car, we teach a class. How is it no one sees how deeply afraid we were, last night, this morning? Is it something we all hide from each other, by mutual consent? Or do we share the same secret without knowing it? Wear the same disguise?
I love it when I'm off the clock, shopping after my shift and people get rude with me. The horror on their face when I'm an absolute bitch and they say I can't talk to them like that because they're a customer and I'm an employee and I get to tell them I'm also a customer because my name is no longer on the time clock. It's becoming one of my new favorite pass times. On a totally related note don't physically grab people then get upset when they tell you to go fuck yourself
10 years ago this Sunday, with modest expectations and little fanfare, Marco and I launched a side-project called Tumblr—a place where anyone could “post anything and customize everything.”
Why did the world need Tumblr? I wasn’t sure it did. But I did.
The net is vast and infinite. The web browser has become a multimedia powerhouse. “Social media” is upending news and entertainment. One-year-old YouTube has created a phenomenon of “viral video.” Google hits for “podcast” have jumped from 100-thousand to 100-million in less than a year. Twitter has just launched. And the “blogosphere” has become the voice of millions, with the total number of blogs now doubling every six months. Dope.
But for all this progress, some of the internet’s brightest promise is fading. The wide-open and whimsical frontier of the World Wide Web is being reshaped by strict, narrow platforms. Our pictures, videos, music, journals, articles, links, status updates, are spread across a dozen different networks—each specializing in a single medium. The infinitely expressive canvas of HTML has been eclipsed by directories of vanilla-white profile pages. Our digital identities are fractured and engineers make the rules.
Enter TumblehubTumblespot Tumblr, a modest solution inspired by an avant-garde community of bloggers calling themselves “tumbleloggers.” The premise, simply, to make space for each individual’s full range of expression. A median between the author’s unfiltered and editorial voice. With complete control over design and presentation, so anyone can create something that truly represents themselves and that is truly unique.
After four months of running my own blog on Tumblr, making tweaks and improvements, we open to the public. Hundreds of thousands of people begin using Tumblr to share some of the most eclectic, clever, and beautiful things we’ve ever seen on the internet.
We are humbled and awestruck.
Racing to keep up, every feature we add attempts to stretch the canvas a little bit more, pushed by this community’s constant and boundless creativity. Five months in, you have captured our hearts. We work up the courage to pursue Tumblr full time.
With a new purpose and braveinvestors, we close down our web development business and reopen as Tumblr, Inc.
336 million Tumblrs. 146 billion posts. And counting.
A generation of artists, writers, creators, curators, and crusaders that have redefined our culture.
I can’t say this enough: Thank you, thank you, thank you for making Tumblr everything that it is. For everything we’ve built, and all its shortcomings, you have managed to make this one of the most creative, lively, thoughtful, supportive, and open-minded corners of the world.
We have learned so much from you and been so moved by your voices.
The Next Ten Years
The internet is at a crossroads again.
Internet culture has become the prevalent, global culture. These networks expose us to new ideas and information but–too often–trap us in bubbles. The world has been compressed, and we are constantly challenged to reconcile our differences.
With so many barriers to digital expression now lifted, and nearly all modes of media supported across all platforms, there is now an unprecedented opportunity to dedicate this space to freedom, truth, expanded perspective, and positive influence in the world. Tumblr’s focus over the next decade will shift accordingly.
Expression has been and always will be a foundational part of Tumblr—and our roadmap this year will not disappoint—but it is now more urgent than ever to empower positive and productive connections across the communities that thrive here. To create an environment where people are truly safe to be themselves. To ensure positive discourse rises above toxicity. And to protect the free exchange of ideas, from which truth will emerge.
We still have so much to prove and so much we’ve promised you. With this renewed focus, we are determined to deliver.
One Last Thing
From the bottom of my heart, thank you to everyone working on, and who has ever worked on, Tumblr. I’ve learned so much from all of you, and it is a privilege to come to work with so many brilliant and talented people. We couldn’t have done any of this without your maniacal devotion throughout this journey.